Do You Need an Explanation?

by: Susan Russo

“Life is accepting what is and working from that.”

Gloria Naylor

When things happen that you don’t like and leave you feeling hurt or overwhelmed with some sort of emotional residue don’t make it harder on yourself by searching for an explanation. Oh sure, you can go on a seek-and-find mission, but don’t turn it into your life’s work.

The reality is you may never know. And, there you are wasting more precious time on a toxic person or a toxic situation, just to try and figure out, “why.”

Learn how to simplify your life by accepting what’s happened and know that you will get beyond it just like everyone else who goes through “stuff” gets over it too. Or, you can hang on and drive yourself crazy trying to figure out why people do what they do and why they are who they are.

When someone violates you on any level, decide how you are going to handle it and move on. Don’t try to change them or reason with them, argue with them or force some sort of explanation out of them.

You can attempt to force them to think like you or try and get them to see your side but that can turn into an exercise in futility.

Honor yourself by having boundaries that people can’t cross over and plant your feet firmly on the ground so that when something does happen, it may make a dent but you won’t crumble.

People have different agendas, aren’t on the same page, don’t see life the same as you but that doesn’t mean you have to change their mind. Instead make up your mind to put it behind you and move on to a better place.

You may not like it, you may not have wanted it and you may not have even seen it coming, but dwelling on it isn’t going to change a thing. The only thing you can change is your attitude towards it.

You are the only one who can choose whether you are going to let this eat you alive or chalk it up to a part of life and move on.

So if you really need an explanation here it is: Sometimes things happen that we wish didn’t and it’s your choice to either hold onto it or let it go. It’s that simple. Choose to have a good life no matter what happens.

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