DID YOU KNOW?
Ancient Egyptians believed the heart was the center of intelligence and emotion. They also thought so little of the brain that during mummification, they removed the brain entirely from bodies.
“What really matters for success, character, happiness and life long achievements is a definite set of emotional skills – your EQ – not just purely cognitive abilities that are measured by conventional IQ tests.” —Daniel Goleman, Ph.D.
“Isolated people have vastly increased rate of premature death from all causes and are 3-5x likelier to die early than people with strong social ties.” — Dean Ornish, “Love and Survival”
“Anger kills, whether you let it all hang out or whether you keep it to yourself,” says Williams, who directs Duke’s Behavioral Medicine Research Center.Cardiac and cancer patients who were provided social support and trained to manage their anger and other negative emotions had about half the heart attack recurrence and mortality as those who were not.
Pessimism is bad for your health. It lowers your immunity. Your health at the age of 60 is strongly related to your optimism/pessimism at age 25. More prone to isolation because people don’t want to be around you. Pessimists don’t stick to health regimens or get medical advice. (Martin Seligman, Ph.D.)
“Stress kills and the deepest scientific mystery has been how the killers stress and depression invade from the world of thought and emotion into the immune system, where they weaken the body’s resistance. Psychoneuroimmunologists are mapping those biological invasion pathways.” (Read Paul Pearsall, “The Pleasure Prescription.” He’s a psychoneuroimmunologist.)
Question to ask your underemployed coaching client, from Thomas Leonard.
Q: Why aren’t you getting paid what your worth?
A: Maybe it’s because you aren’t pleasant to work with.
“Daniel Goleman also points out that the limbic system takes much longer to be reprogrammed (i.e., learn new behaviors) than does the neocortex. Only after months of repetition and practice can one create “new neural pathways [that] become the . . . default option” for the emotional brain.” — Lt Col Sharon M Latour, USAF, Lt Gen Bradley C. Hosmer, USAF, Retired, “Emotional Intelligence Implications for All United States Air Force Leaders
“Companies can continue to give top priority to financial performance — but many now also realize that technical and intellectual skills are only part of the equation for success. A growing number of organizations are now convinced that people’s ability to understand and to manage their emotions improves their performance, their collaboration with colleagues, and their interaction with customers. After decades of businesses seeing “hard stuff” and “soft stuff” as separate domains, emotional competence may now be a way to close that breach and to produce a unified view of workplace performance.” —FastCompany
“An analysis of the personality traits that accompany high IQ in men who lack these emotional competencies portrays, well, the stereotypical nerd: critical and condescending, inhibited and uncomfortable with sensuality, emotionally bland. By contrast, men with the traits that mark emotional intelligence are poised and outgoing, committed to people and causes, sympathetic and caring, with a rich but appropriate emotional life – they’re comfortable with themselves, others, and the social universe they live in.” — Daniel Goleman, Ph.D.
“Only in growth, reform, and change, paradoxically enough, is true security to be found.” —Anne Morrow Lindbergh
“Comparing the three domains, I found that for jobs of all kinds, emotional competencies were twice as prevalent among distinguishing competencies as were technical skills and purely cognitive abilities combined. In general the higher a position in an organization, the more EI mattered: for individuals in leadership positions, 85 percent of their competencies were in the EI domain.” — Daniel Goleman
“Interpersonal communication and other so-called soft skills are what corporate recruiters crave most but find most elusive in M.B.A. graduates,” says the WSJ. “The major business schools produce graduates with analytical horsepower and solid command of the basics — finance, marketing and strategy. But soft skills such as communication, leadership and a team mentality sometimes receive cursory treatment.” — Wall Street Journal
“The nervous system and hormone responses of hostile people are a pathway to disease and death.” Redford Williams, M.D., “Anger Kills”
“Emotional competence is the single most important personal quality that each of us must develop and access to experience a breakthrough. Only through managing our emotions can we access our intellect and our technical competence. An emotionally competent person performs better under pressure.” –Dave Lennick, Executive VP, American Express Financial Advisers
“Religious faith reduces stress, anxiety, and depression,” says Dr. Koenig, head of Duke Univ.’s Program on Aging. “Such serenity means lower adrenalin and in turn may enhance the immune system to better fight infections, cancer, heart disease, stroke, and stomach and bowel problems.” Furthermore, it offers critical social support.
“Seventy percent of disease causation right now is lifestyle and environment.” –Elliott Dacher, M.D.
“Study by Joseph Hee-Woo Jae at Ateneo de Manila University in the Philippines, evaluated 100 university-educated, front-line employees at a major Asian bank. FINDING: EQ scores were far more related to actual on-the-job performance than IQ. In fact IQ scores were virtually unrelated (correlation of .07) EQ scores – 27%, correlation, a whopping .52.”
“When military leaders unfamiliar with EI [emotional intelligence] first hear about it, they are generally unreceptive. But there is more to judging this ‘book’ than its ‘touchy-feely-sounding’ cover.” –Lt Gen Bradley Hosmer, US Air Force
The National Heart, Lung, and Blood Institute is convinced there’s a link between emotions and health. They’ve granted $30-million to Duke Univ. Medical Center to study 3,000 coronary patients who test high on depression and social isolation to try and enhance recovery.
“The levels of cooperation required in the future may mean that EI [emotional intelligence] and other forms of intelligence such as creativity and self-transcendance, will be valued over the intelligence measured by IQ tests. An intelligence centred in the heart is centred in the Self and therefore has a superhuman, trans-personal connection; the next phase of evolution, with its enormous challenges and increasing load of information, will require an integrated intelligence with access to the infinite.” –Graham Brown
“It’s a basic introduction, but what it gives people is permission, a language, and a structure for bringing their emotional lives into the workplace. It also prompts a shift in perspective. They come out seeing the world differently. For men, who are often talking about emotions for the first time, it opens a window. They finally understand what their mothers and sisters and wives have been talking about all these years when they say, ‘You don’t communicate with me,’ and ‘You never tell me what you’re feeling.’ For women, it’s often their first confirmation that qualities like self-awareness and empathy can really make a positive difference in the workplace.” –Kate Cannon, EQ Trainer
“Man’s main task in life is to give birth to himself, to become what he potentially is. The most important product of his effort is his own personality.” –Erich Fromm
“Emotional intelligence (EQ) is emerging as a critical factor in high performance at work, at school, and at home. World leading organizations are adopting EQ practices into organizational development and human resources. Likewise, leading educators, hospitals, psychologists and coaches are using EQ tools to create positive results and meet pressing educational, family, health and social needs.” –NexusEQ
“Adults remain social animals; they continue to require a source of stabilization outside themselves. That open-loop design means that in some \important ways, people cannot be stable on their own — not should or shouldn’t, but can’t be…Stability means finding people who regulate you well and staying near them.” –Thomas Lewis, M.D.
“Emotional intelligence is the ability to sense, understand, and effectively apply the power and acumen of emotions as a source of human energy, information, connection, and influence.” — Robert K. Cooper. Ph.D.
“In the last decade or so, science has discovered a tremendous amount about the role emotions play in our lives. Researchers have found that even more than IQ, your emotional awareness and abilities to handle feelings will determine your success and happiness in all walks of life, including family relationships.” –John Gottman, Ph.D.
“There is only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving… and that’s your own self. —- Aldous Huxley
[In EQ-i tests] … Substance abusers’ key deficits turned out to be problem solving, social responsibility, and stress tolerance. Spousal abusers primarily lacked empathy and had poor impulse control and an inflated self-regard.” — US Air Force
“Sólo se educa la cabeza. Si se permitiera a las emociones ser verdaderamente libres, el intelecto se cuidaría de sí mismo”. –Alexander S. Neill
“Knowing others and knowing oneself, in one hundred battles no danger. Not knowing the other and knowing oneself, one victory for one loss. Not knowing the other and not knowing oneself, in every battle certain defeat.” –Sun Tzu, The Art of War
“While strong feelings can create havoc in reasoning, the lack of awareness of feeling can also be ruinous, especially in weighing the decisions on which our destiny largely depends; what career to pursue, whether to stay with a secure job or switch to one that is riskier but more interesting, whom to date or marry, where to live… Such decisions cannot be made well through sheer rationality; they require gut feeling, and the emotional wisdom garnered through past experiences. Formal logic alone can never work as the basis for deciding whom to marry or trust or even what job to take; these are realms where reason without feeling is blind.” — Daniel Goleman
“Evidence is presented that the mass suppression of emotion throughout
the civilized world has stifled our growth emotionally, leading us down
a path of emotional ignorance.” – Ph.D. dissertation by Wayne Leon Payne
“The most effective leaders in the US Navy are warmer, more outgoing, emotionally expressive, dramatic, and sociable.” (Bachman, 1988)
“The secret of contentment is knowing how to enjoy what you have, and to be able to lose all desire for things beyond your reach.” –Lin Yutang
“There are certain emotions that will kill your drive; frustration and confusion. You can change these to a positive force. Frustration means you are on the verge of a breakthrough. Confusion can mean you are about to learn something. Expect the breakthrough and expect to learn.” –Kathleen Spike, Master Certified Coach
“In a study of skills that distinguish star performers in every field from entry-level jobs to executive positions, the single most important factor was not IQ, advanced degrees, or technical experience, it was EQ. Of the competencies required for excellent in performance in the job studies, 67% were emotional competencies.” — Daniel Goleman, Working with Emotional Intelligence
“Reading and weeping opens the door to one’s heart, but writing and weeping opens the window to one’s soul.” –M.K. Simmons
“The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.” –William James
“75% of careers are derailed for reasons related to emotional competencies, including inability to handle interpersonal problems; unsatisfactory team leadership during times of difficulty or conflict; or inability to adapt to change or elicit trust.” — The Center for Creative Leadership, 1994
“My lack of education hasn’t hurt at all. I can read the writing on the wall.” –Paul Simon, “Kodachrome”
“A merry heart doeth good like medicine.” –Proverbs 17:22
“Why Germans Don’t Feel Anger,” is a chapter in Harkins’ “Emotions in Cross-linguistic Perspective.” It studies different words referring to anger in German: Ärger, Wut, Zorn and their derivatives (sich ärgern, wütend, zornig). It alleges the basic emotion expressed by the English word “anger” has no direct counterpart in German, a language close to English both genetically and culturally.
“Be not disturbed at being misunderstood; be disturbed rather at not being understanding.” -Chinese proverb
“The greatest ability in business is to get along with others and influence their actions.” -John Hancock
“Afterwards there was less cynicism – people had gained an understanding of colleagues differences.” – FIT Emotional Intelligence
“A survey of managers in a leading UK supermarket chain revealed that those high on EI [emotional intelligence] experienced less stress, enjoyed better health, demonstrated higher levels of morale and performance, and reported a better quality of life.” –Margaret Chapman
When one considers EI [emotional intelligence] in light of these domains, it becomes obvious that the field represents a set of comprehensive, interpersonal abilities rather than hardwired native skills; as such, it can be learned. EI [emotional intelligence] could well be called “affective effectiveness.” The affective domain consists of mind, will, and emotions (“heart knowledge”); it contrasts with linguistic, logical, mathematical, and spatial intelligences- the cognitive domain of “head” knowledge. –Lt Gen Bradley Hosmer
“Women, on average, tend to be more aware of their emotions, show more empathy, and are more adept interpersonally. Men on the other hand, are more self-confident and optimistic, adapt more easily, and handle stress better.” —Daniel Goleman
An Ethics Resource Center study found that 90% of employees value leaders with integrity as highly as they value income.
EQ was the best predictor of who the “star performers” would be in a group of engineers. The ‘Adaptability’ factor of the EQ-i™ turned out to be the best single predictor, accounting for 25% of the variance.” –Bar-on EQ-i™ data
“If more politicians knew poetry, and more poets knew politics, I am convinced the world would be a little better place in which to live.” –John Fitzgerald Kennedy
“The time is always right to do what is right.” –Martin Luther King
“It matters if you just don’t give up.” Stephen Hawking
“Nuestros sentimientos nos definen en forma más directa y completa que nada, y cuando nos volvemos más genuinos en la expresión emocional, cambian las percepciones que la gente tiene de nosotros”. –Dr. David Viscott
“Anything will give up its secrets if you love it enough. Not only have I found that when I talk to the little flower or to the little peanut they will give up their secrets, but I have found that when I silently commune with people they give up their secrets also–if you love them enough.” –George Washington Carver
“Each handicap is like a hurdle in a steeplechase, and when you ride up to it, if you throw your heart over, the horse will go along too.” –Lawrence Bixby
“No hay mayor miseria que no conocer el contento”. –Lao Tsé
“Education is the ability to listen to almost anything without losing your temper or your self-confidence.” –Robert Frost
“The eyes have one language everywhere.” George Herbert
“I respect the man who knows distinctly what he wishes. The greater part of all mischief in the world arises from the fact that men do not sufficiently understand their own aims. They have undertaken to build a tower, and spend no more labor on the foundation than would be necessary to erect a hut.” –Goethe