by: Susan Russo
“Change always comes bearing gifts.” –Price Pritchett
One of my favorite quotes is: “Pain is inevitable; suffering optional.” It’s the same with change. It’s inevitable that life situations will change and that change may be accompanied by unease and it can be a bit scary stepping out of your comfort zone into the unknown.
Once you begin to accept what has happened, whether you wanted it or not, you then choose how you are going to handle it. There are times where you may even be the one who instigates the change and it still feels as if you are at odds with things.
Obviously when you are the one who wanted the change it’s less traumatic to embrace but when you are the one who is left in the lurch so to speak, it can come fraught with a barrage of emotions.
Dealing with what you are left with is like being lost in a forest hoping to see a clearing in the distance. You will get through the thicket one step at a time, just as you will get through your emotional upheaval. But, it’s when you refuse to let go of what happened and dwell on what if, if only and why that you remain attached to the situation and you suffer.
Attachment to something, someone or some outcome holds you prisoner when change does show up. Attachment will allow negative thoughts and feelings like regrets, revenge, jealousy, and fear to consume you.
Know that just because things didn’t work out the way you wanted them to doesn’t mean you can’t go on to have a great life regardless of what has happened.
Many times it’s a blessing in disguise but you are so absorbed with your pain or fear that you lose focus of the fact that you’re still surrounded by many blessings in your life.
The reality is that there isn’t anyone on this planet that doesn’t experience change in one form or another. So accept that it’s inevitable and then be determined to choose a path of dealing with it that will not only serve you well but will allow you to live with peace and happiness just as you were intended to.
We all have the freedom to choose. So, when you choose to take the high road and pick up the pieces of your life, minus all of the emotional garbage you may hold onto, you will not only move on sooner rather than later but you’ll have a better journey along the road of life while knowing that if everything really does change, even your pain and fear will change to acceptance and peace.