“Envy is the art of counting the other fellow’s blessings instead your own.”
Do you ever wish you were someone else or had what someone else has? Do you find yourself in a mental competition with someone and they aren’t even aware that they are in the race? Do you look at other people and compare who they are and what they have to who you feel you aren’t and what you feel you lack?
Whether you are looking at a co-worker, neighbor, ex partner, family member or friend and wishing you possessed their talent, their looks, their money, their happiness, education level, physique or whatever it is you feel you want that they have, it’s time to take the focus off of them and celebrate yourself.
No two people are alike. You are a great person who is uniquely special with a combination of your own strengths and talents. You have strengths that you don’t even acknowledge or recognize because you are so busy looking at that one thing that you believe would bring you more happiness if you had it.
The truth is someone may be better looking or richer or seemingly happier but until you stop looking at them as if they and their life is the end all and be all; how do you expect to appreciate your life?
There will always be someone who is thinner, smarter, funnier, has more money, is better looking, can dance better, sing better, has a nicer home or faster car but there is only one of you. When you compare yourself to others and make it so that you don’t measure up, what kind of impact do you think that has on your self esteem?
Living your life wanting to be someone else or have what they do negates the very essence of who you are, it strips you of your God given gifts and diminishes the light inside of you.
Just for today, put aside dwelling on what others have and look at all of the goodness and greatness of your life. You have so much that you push to the side just because you believe that someone else has more. No one can make you feel small but yourself. No one can make you realize how lucky you are if you won’t admit it.
Jealousy isn’t something anyone wants to possess. So if you find yourself longing for what others have, stop and remind yourself that there are some people who may wish they were you or had YOUR unique qualities and the things you possess that they don’t.
There is always someone who has it worse than you. So maybe you would like to trade places with them? Or maybe you should start to relish in all of your glory for who you are and all that you DO have in your life.
By eradicating the green eyed monster of jealousy and living without envy; it frees you to accept people with all of their accomplishments and what they have been blessed with and to genuinely be happy for them.
But more importantly it takes You to another level of living your life celebrating all that you are and have and instead of crying about your life you can begin to truly appreciate all that you have been blessed with.
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