Ever heard the term, but didn’t know what it meant?
As we journey along the pathway of personal development, we come across this term. It seems somewhat confusing at first, because our belief system, for the most part, has been based on the premise that external things affect our lives. Whilst this is true to some extent, more to the point, it is our energy vibration that goes out into the world that has the greater impact.
When we first meet someone that we feel a connection to, there are so many different levels of communication going on. We may communicate with words; however our energy fields are also interacting and communicating. It is this energy communication that is the MAGIC KEY to understand who you really are and what vibration you are sending out into the world.
On the physical level we are checking this person out to see if there is a match – will we like/love this person. Do we like what we see? Do we have interests in common, etc? On the unconscious level the two energy fields are communicating… and this is where it gets very interesting.
Imagine if you will that there is YOU in all your ‘Duality Finery’ (in other words ‘your masks’ that you hope is hiding ‘your secret life’ from the world) and then there is a computer screen right beside you – in your energy field. You can’t see it, but other people’s energy fields can see it and more than that – they can access it and read what is on the monitor.
On your computer screen is ALL your past, some issues are more predominate than others, it is however, a revolving file. Some days your unconscious anger will be up on the desktop. Other days, your hidden pain, and on other days the movie of your life starts to play. It is your secret self played out for the whole world to see… and you thought if you didn’t say it with words, then no one would know what was going on for you at a deeper level. Yikes you say. I don’t want anyone to know what I really feel. The point is that whatever is going on at a deeper level and what you are attempting to hold in – is A VIBRATION and that vibration is READ and FELT by the people around you.
When I wrote my second book, I wrote some very personal aspects of my journey. I began writing that book as a part of my own healing when my marriage ended in divorce. I wrote and wrote to let all those pent up feelings and emotions have a voice. Then one day someone read what I had written and asked if I had the courage to put it out as a book. I took a giant leap of faith and put it into print. The night I sent it off to the printers I sat there horrified at what I had done. A wave of embarrassment and humiliation swamped over me and I sat feeling like a real dork. As you know I am clairaudient and a voice said. “Jan-Marie someone has to start the process of opening up the darkest, deepest parts of themselves to show others it is okay to be real and honest. It is how each can heal”
The personal letters I received from around the world were amazing. Almost every letter said – I can’t believe you are telling my story. Thank you. The point is that as humans we are all very alike and our stories though very personal and often painful are all facets of the whole.
We are all inter-connected VIA energy. Your energy field is the most important part of communication. Put simply, it has the most punch. If you do not know what is in your energy field chatting away to all and sundry wherever you are 24/7 then you are unconscious and you are out-of-control. In other words the world is happening TO you and it is not you who is in-control. Life mastery is knowing EXACTLY what you are communicating on an unconscious energetic level.
Let me give you an example. I am currently working my way through a scenario in my own personal life. I live in a front duplex with a shared driveway. My back neighbour’s guests regularly park in that driveway blocking me access in and out of my own home. There is plenty of street parking, they just choose to park in the driveway. Do they recognise that there are two garages and that someone must obviously live there? No they don’t. As you can imagine it is annoying to me not to be able to come and go from my own home when I need. What did I do? Well, it all started out simply enough. It happened once, then twice, and then became a regular thing. I did what most do – I hoped it would go away.
It didn’t because deep down was lurking a HUGE core pattern coming to the surface right now.
There I am out in the garden cutting a few dead heads off, checking my watch because I have an appointment to get to in 10 minutes. In drives this four wheel with a very long trailer and parks in the driveway completely blocking me from getting my car out. The woman sees me and says “Oh I wont be long” – I respond “Good, I need to get out”. The women quickly drops off the item in the trailer and parks the car in the street.
Now that communication seems innocent enough. Except as I am driving out, my neighbour, a small elderly fiery Scot hammers on my car window spitting chips that I had the audacity to ask her guest to move her car.
Okay so how has this got so out of hand? The truth is I was annoyed, my words were mild enough – it was the vibration I was pumping out into t he world that has this neighbour so riled up. She told me I was the most unfriendly person and I was always attacking her. The truth is I keep to myself and am always civil. This is NOT how she perceives me and right now it has erupted into a mini world war three.
Therefore what is MY mirror? What can this person see on my computer monitor that I am at this point, unaware of? I will let you know as the matter is resolved and transformed. I am still in the process of identifying and transforming. The point of revealing this aspect of my own personal journey is that we are all human and at any given time we will be called upon by the ‘Mirror’ (a challenge up in our face) to look deeper and heal that aspect.
Instead, usually most people blame the other person. After all on the superficial surface I have good reason to blame this elderly neighbour. It is her responsibility to ensure her guests do not block my access. Instead it is her pure joy to see this play out. She absolutely loves the drama and has joyously drawn in the tribe to support her and validate her then together they stand around laughing, talking loudly and pointing the finger at me. This is what the Tribe does. The natural response to this pre-historic pattern is for the one who is judged, isolated, bullied then abandoned to fend for themselves in the wilderness – that it often resulted in death. (A clue for what is really going on here).
When we feel isolated and alone (you can be in a room of people and feel this) we usually do not feel safe. If we do not feel safe then we live in high anxiety. People feel this vibrationally and respond. Unfortunately, the inbuilt pre-historic pattern handed down through the generations – is not a loving, supportive response. The habitual inbuilt response is defense and more attack. To survive the strong kill the weakest of the pack.
The question is – where do you not feel safe? Where do you feel vulnerable? What is going on in your life that you are attempting to hide, yet others feel, sense and see what is really going on.
The tribe gathering together, pumping each other up, while openly judging, criticising and hitting out (bullying) at the person they perceive as the weakest link or just different – is a deep core pattern within humanity. We live in a country that has got a strong pattern of ‘Tall Poppy Syndrome’ – chop anyone down who is different or successful and stepping through their ‘Fear of Greatness’ to reach their full potential.
As enlightened conscious people we can transform this pattern within ourselves and as we do – because we are ALL energy and inter-connected to the whole – transform the energetic consciousness of the whole.
How cool is that. We heal ourselves via the mirror reflection. Whatever behaviour we perceive is IN someone else – is within self at some energetic vibrational level. As challenging as it is to have these scenarios play out – it is the GIFT we GIVE to OURSELVES.
Instead of reacting, becoming stressed and more out of balance – stop! Make a list of all the qualities you see in the other person and honestly look at where you also hold those qualities (even if you are attempting to deny their existence). It is the greatest gift of freedom you can give yourself. You cannot change another living person. The only person you can change is yourself. This is how we heal the world. We heal SELF.
When there is a reaction
Or we have a need to defend our beliefs
It is our Ego who speaks and reacts
The stronger the reaction,
The more out of balance is our Ego self…
To communicate from place of PURE Balance
Is to be in-balance and In-LOVE our Ego Self.
Have a wonderful day, week, and life.
(c) Jan-Marie Brooke 2010