It’s a real life horror movie. One that never seems to end. Destroying your appetite, your power to focus, your resolve to just make it through the day – as you’re assaulted by the mental images of your wayward partner in the arms of the other person. What can you do to get rid of these images of infidelity? How do you get your life back? How do you end this infidelity horror movie? The way to begin – is to stop contributing to this affair movie scenario. Stop “filling in the details” of the affair. The ones you know nothing about. But simply imagine.
For example – You may be aware of just where the infidelity occurred. But, truth be told, that doesn’t prevent you from “filling in the blanks” regarding what took place after that, does it? This is how you add reinforcement to the “cheating spouse infidelity”scenario. Which, of course simply prolongs the film you say you want to end. The first step to writing “The End” to your “Nightmare on Infidelity Street”, is to comprehend and accept that you must stop contributing to the affair film’s screenplay.
Stop being “creative” and start being realistic. Of course it will be hard work. Consumed by the seemingly unbroken cycle of negative infidelity images, your will and energy are used up. You feel powerless to stop the downward spiral. The debilitating feelings they generate. Fear, mis-trust, betrayal feed into each other. Sending you descending further out of control. Take control! That’s the next quintessential step. If you want to reclaim your mind, and have some hope of re-animating your relationship.
You do this, in the first instance by not fighting the affair images. As hard as it will be at the start, put aside a specific time during your day to allow the adultery images to enter your mind without impediment. This will create a very subtle, but commanding shift in the control equation. After this it is YOU who are in control. Only letting the affair images in when you dictate. Next, after a period of time you decide, YOU tell the images to leave. Again, showing definitively your mastery of the situation.
In conclusion, employ this dynamic approach to bring an end to the “Affair Horror Movie:”Select one infidelity image and play it backwards in your mind. By manipulating the image in this manner you further demonstrate your control by re-affirming to yourself that the image is without influence. An image. A phantom with no substance. With no force to manipulate your life.