How To Make Things Right When Things Go Wrong
Have you ever had one of those days when things seem to go wrong instead of right? Perhaps a conversation you wanted to have doesn’t go the way you intended, or an event gets rained out or doesn’t happen the way you expected, or you are stuck in traffic and you’re going to be late, or the dinner party you organized doesn’t work out the way you thought, or things didn’t go well with your boss, partner, friend or family member, or your trip was postponed, etc. A lot of things can seem to go wrong in life and it’s up to you to make them right. As the saying goes, “When life hands you lemons, make lemonade”.
We can pout or smile, we can be angry or peaceful, we can be sad or happy, we can be disappointed or content, we can be hurt or whole, we can be bitter or sweet. Things work out the way they do and it’s your responsibility to make the best or worst of the situations that occur. If there is a 50 to 50 chance things can go wrong, then there also must be a 50 to 50 chance things can go right. It has everything to do with our interpretation, perception, and attitude towards things that go wrong that offer us an opportunity to make things right. Roadways have twists and turns, ups and downs, stops and starts, road blocks and detours that you maneuver through.
The road of life isn’t much different; you can steer yourself out of wrong thinking into right thinking any time you choose. If you are driving and the road is closed, you wouldn’t drive through the barricade or continue to stay there waiting for the road to re-open as you might be sitting there for quite some time. You would follow the detour signs until you are back on the right road again. When you drive your car, you can go just about anywhere you choose. When things go wrong you also have the same ability to steer yourself right. Days that don’t go your way are offering you another route, so to speak – a choice of how to move through what’s occurring, not just by-pass it.
Recognize which road your thoughts are leading you down. Is it a dead-end mindset or an, open-minded one? You can realign and adjust your thinking and attitude from things not working out to what possibilities are now being presented. Staying stuck or moving forward, it’s your choice. How can you change when things go wrong to things going right? By making it so for you.
- Ask. What can YOU do in the situation that can turn things around for you.
- Listen. Be open to receive direction as to what that may be.
- Allow. Let yourself do what is being whispered or shown.
Most people are really good about following numbers one and two, then they resist, instead of allow, as in number three. What changes things from wrong to right is your thinking towards it. Recognizing whether you are in misalignment or alignment is key.
When you adjust your way of thinking or being, you may find yourself resorting back to your old tactics. That’s normal. Have patience with yourself. It’s hard to teach an old dog new tricks, but it is possible. If you are open to change, it can occur. When you become more aware of what’s going wrong for you, then you can begin to make them right for you. The key words being, “right for you”. You can’t make things right for someone else; you can offer assistance, but you can’t make it right for them. You can only do that for you, and only if you choose to.
You can stay stuck in negative thinking when things don’t work out, or you can shift gears and direction. If you choose to let something that has occurred to be wrong, then you can also choose what has occurred to make things right again for you. When something doesn’t work out and we react to that person or situation, there is a lesson calling our name to be learned. It’s time to take out our manual and do a little repairing and fine tuning.
Wouldn’t it be great if we could wear a sign saying “learner’s permit, have patience” when we are learning to something new? You can remind yourself that when things go wrong you can make them right and that you may have your beginner’s license for a while. That’s a great place to start.